When it comes to a sugar baby allowance, the ranges are huge. Anything from paying a cell phone bill to 5 figure monthly allowances. Many sugar daddies get enjoyment by giving an allowance. The dependency that exists truly benefits both sides.

How to ask for an Allowance

This is always tricky. It’s more an art than a science, but there is some commonality. For instance, the biggest mistake you can make is ask for an allowance amount before you ever even meet. I know, the last thing you want to do as a sugar baby is waste time with salt. Thing is, it’s a catch 22. The mean that can provide real allowances, will get turned off if you’re asking for X before you even meet. At the same time, you don’t want to waste your time with a guy that just wants to pay your for your Starbucks latte.

So that makes asking for an allowance an art you have to master. The key that we found isn’t so much the dollar amount, it’s more the things you’re wanting taken care of. Rent, car payments, credit card bills, student loans. These are items in which you never have to say a dollar amount. A sugar daddy’s response to this will determine if you’re on the same wave length or not.

Don’t ever let him try before he buys

Some guys, with means and without means, will try to force you into situations you don’t want to. Their biggest line is wanting to see what he’s getting for paying for X or providing an allowance. The concept of letting him try anything goes against the whole sugar life. The reason you are getting paid to date and why he’s offering is to form a mutually beneficial arrangement. This is such a wide net of opportunities that there’s no room for the mentality of “trying before you buy.

Don’t ever give out your banking information

One of the bigger scams out there today in the sugar world goes like this: A man offers you an allowance that you’re more than satisfied with. In order to give you this allowance, he asks for several bits of personal information (social, banking, etc). Avoid this at all cost. Cash is truly king here ladies. The guy can certainly go the extra step of going to his bank, getting a withdrawal, and providing it to you. Paypal is another option, just need to be careful with chargebacks. Once you establish the arrangement and it is ongoing, various options open up where you’ll feel more comfortable with.

Don’t get greedy

One of the biggest complaints by sugar babies is labeling men as salt. Why, because he just met you and doesn’t want to give you 5k off the bat? The sugar life is a lifestyle, it’s not a transaction that occurs. If it’s a transaction you’re looking for, you need to jump out of the sugar baby world and into the escort world. There are a select few sugar baby sites that cater to the sugar lifestyle at a whole. That means everything from a man spoiling you like crazy to men who are simply willing to support you. You need to know and adapt to the differences. Otherwise, you will be a sour sugar baby never getting the ideal arrangement you’re looking for.

An open flexible mind wins

Every single arrangement is different. As a result, you really need to be open minded and flexible. If you’re not, you will lose out on opportunities that you thought were duds, that would have been gems. Don’t forget, the one thing that most successful men do not have, is the luxury of time. The old saying of time is money is extremely true here. If these men feel you are hustling them, playing them, the true diamonds in the rough will disappear. Knowing that, it’s key that you are open minded. As mentioned earlier, there are many types of arrangements out there that can benefit you. If your rigid on wanting X for Y, that your sugar baby allowance will never happen. What you’re really looking for is an hourly rate.

What are the Keys to a Sugar Baby Allowance

  1. Open Mind – I can’t stress this enough. Before you start an excel sheet and start mapping your wants and needs, you really need to be flexible. So many sugar babies miss out on some amazing arrangements due to their narrow mind. For instance, let’s say you want 3k a month to meet 3x a month. Let’s also say you’re looking to make a career in the fashion world. You meet a guy that is very high up the food chain in the fashion industry . While he can’t meet what you’re looking for, you enjoy his company and his knowledge / insights into the field. If you’re close minded, you will lose out on an opportunity to learn from a successful man in your field.
  2. Start the conversation – When it comes to negotiating, the one who starts with an offer is always at a disadvantage. In your case, you need to start the conversation so there isn’t any miscommunication. Now, that doesn’t mean you need to have a dollar figure in mind. You can simply state that you’re looking for an ongoing arrangement that will support your lifestyle. Let the conversation flow from there.
  3. It’s Ok to Say No – Don’t ever feel like you need to say yes to ANYTHING you’re not comfortable with. No man has the right to dictate something to you that you’re uncomfortable with. Period.
  4. Bring Up Past Arrangements – Now this is a slippery slope. Remember most guys in the sugar world spew out a lot of BS. He might describe an arrangement that is significantly less than what you’re looking for, with a woman that was a “model”. When you hear this type of talk, don’t waste your time and move on. If however, you believe the arrangement he’s telling you about, and is coming across as sincere, well then you have a solid base to work from.
  5. Is He Married – Ask yourself if you’re ok with him being married. I say this as this becomes a true NSA arrangement, it’ll never be anything more. Some sugar babies love this, some hate it. IF you know which bucket you fall into, it will be much easier to move on from. For those interested, I can tell you successful married men give some of the best allowances for sugar babies.


Sugar Baby

With back to school in full effect, there are tons of vanilla relationships that are unaware of something: their college aged girlfriend needs her sugar daddy now more than ever! As a result, sugar daddies love back to school!

College sugar babies are an interesting mix. The smarter ones realize their beauty and youth have an extreme value. By pairing themselves up with sugar daddies on sites such as Ashley Madison, they’re able to pay down student debt and have extra money for the fun stuff. It’s really a win-win situation, particularly for the juniors and seniors that have had it with college boys and are starting to look beyond college.

Another stepping stone is the realization of networking. By tapping into sugar daddy arrangements, you are entering into a network of men that you would never have access to. The insights you’ll find here are invaluable. That’s where the addiction can grow to the sugar life. Your eyes are now opened to a world with anything is possible.

Sugar babies in college also can learn an interesting trick with sugar daddies, you can juggle more than one. Most often, these men are quite busy. Physically seeing them is minimum in comparison to virtual time. Yet, you can still get an allowance without needing to physically seeing them as often. Think about that, you can now juggle more than one and have multiple revenue streams coming in. That’s right, if you’re putting two and two together, you see the sugar life can be treated like a business. If you look at it this way, you can see your bank accounts grow in a way that a college degree on it’s own could never do for you. Enjoy the sugar life!

Sugar Baby

I remember being in high school and college even, that whole concept of friends with benefits was a thing. Now as an adult, these fwb sites are nothing more than an adult version of friends with benefits. The main difference now is simple economics: money. Men and women will now engage in these quote unquote friends with benefits when joining fwb sites.

FWB Sites Cover as Arrangements

When you’re young, money is at the bottom of your thought process. The joys of being an adult is crossing over the financial side to the top of your list. While you’re still looking to have fun, girls simply wanna have funds! At this cross section you are seeing successful men creating arrangements with sugar babies. These sugar babies are looking at this arrangements as a form of getting paid to date.

First, these women will create a profile on a site like Ashley Madison. Their profile will read in a way where successful men can determine if this is the type of arrangement they’re looking for. If there’s a common ground, this successful guy and this sugar baby will meet – ideally at a public place to discuss their expectations. The huge upside with these conversations is that the lying is virtually gone. Instead of trying to be someone you’re not, you come out and state exactly what you’re looking for. To many, this is ideal nowadays. After all, time is such a precious commodity that you can now put a price on it while dating, aka forming a mutually beneficial arrangement.

Paid Dating

Every single woman, sugar baby, I’ve ever meant loves to travel. The part that makes traveling tough is either time or finances. For most women, it’s finances. For most men, it’s time. When time and means intersect with the opposite sex, you are meeting a mutual need that fills so many voids. Enter the world of travel companions.

Travel Companion Sites

No we aren’t talking about a way to bring your yorkie on a flight, even though its quite common. Travel companions are able to provide companionship to business men that have access to luxury flights and destinations in which a woman might never be able to see.  Since the man is working most of the time , you have the perfect mix of exploring your new destination on your own, while having time to spend with this man you met. The reason mutually beneficial arrangement sites like Ashley Madison are growing is due to this overall trend of getting paid to date. In this case, you have access to travel and finances that you never would be able to.

In my eyes, situations like this is a win win. The only downside, which can be avoided, is knowing where your boundaries lie. By knowing this, you never put yourself in a situation you don’t want to be in. If you can establish this upfront, the upside of you meeting successful men as a travel companion will truly upgrade your life. After all, you might establish an arrangement with this successful man that can benefit you personally and career wise. The opportunities are endless, so put on your creative thinking cap and have a hell of a time!

Paid Dating

Continuing my theme to get paid to date , I’m taking it a step further with the ability to date rich men and get paid instantly. Believe it or not, it’s becoming more accepted than ever. Sure, there was a time that these women were considered gold diggers. Nowadays, it’s just the evolution of dating.

First there was generic dating, then niche dating, then dating apps.  As a result, women have access to rich men in a very private manner. The same goes true for these rich men, many of which are married looking for discretion.

Date Rich Men and Get Paid Instantly

So how is it that you’re able to date rich men and get paid instantly? Simply put, these rich men are looking to spend time with you. Coffee, lunch, dinner, the opportunities are endless. The trick is to make that first meeting very casual and late. Think, what’s so bad about having coffee or lunch with a rich guy and getting paid? Take a step further, you can meet rich guys every day of the week for coffee or lunch and make a living out of it. Meanwhile, you never have to take it any further – unless of course you want to.

For arguments sake, let’s assume you don’t want to take it further. Not only are you being entertained by rich men, but you are also building a network of men for your career purposes. This of course can get very tricky. The goal is to make it clear that you’re not interested in him in “that” way. If the guy has any interest, he will always return your phone call / email / text. If he’s only looking for one thing, then your downside is that you still got paid to have coffee with a rich guy! Win-Win in my book.

Paid Dating

We’ve has been accumulating, writing, and curating articles for several years now in the sugar baby dating world. One of the most fascinating trends we see emerging is the ability to get paid to date. While some consider this a form of a sugar daddy sugar baby relationship, that is not what we are discussing here. The ability to actually get paid to date is entirely different. As a result, we are seeing paying for dates as the new norm in the dating world.

Get Paid to Date

Let’s face it, the media nowadays is generally clueless. The concept of actual reporting rarely exists anymore. As a result, the media paints the picture of getting paid to date in a negative light. Truth is, times have changed. Paying for dates is just another way to have access to arrangements that most men and women weren’t able to obtain.

Women are educated and ambitious. That makes time, incredibly valuable. With the growth of dating sites and dating apps, men and women have immediate access to all sorts of “arrangements” at their fingertips. Getting paid to date is another way of exploring an option of meeting new people and getting paid to do so.

Social Media Can Be Your Friend or Enemy

The explosion of social media should be no surprise. The huge benefit of social media is the ability to surround your circle by positive influences. Unfortunately, extreme negativity can occur, particularly when you’re discussing topics like getting paid to date. Instagram for example has built a great tight knit community for those seeking to get paid to date. The problem is, it just takes one bad egg into the circle that can kill the vibe. You can learn a great deal from other women leaving this lifestyle, but be warned there will be those with an extreme opposite reaction.

Your Time is Worth Something

Men are notorious for trying to talk their way out of things. This comes from their constant need to negotiate. In one way or another, this is occurring when you date or meet any man. When you incorporate that ability to get paid to date, the upper hand tips in your favor before you even meet. As a result, your risk of wasting your has a price on it now. For instance, what if you a guy gave you $200 to have coffee at Starbucks? Would you take it? While there are many factors that go into your decision, your downside is heck of a lot less than some guy you met on a dating site.

What Do You Do Next?

There are many simplistic ways to get paid to date.  You should absolutely know your boundaries. Is it like the coffee example above? Is it a casual dinner, a fancy dinner? In addition to that, definitely reach out to other women through social media. Many of them will gladly give you some insights. The key is not being judgmental. Just because one woman will do X for Y, doesn’t make you a better or worse person for doing X for Z.

Paid Dating

When it comes to financial domination, or fin dom as they say, there’s been a surge in demands for this sort of arrangement. At the end of the day, it all comes down to establishing trust between the pay pig and the findomme.  In order to build that trust, you need to find communities that are open to such arrangements. So where do you go if you’re looking for top financial domination websites? Ultimately, it comes down to a community that is truly open minded. Without the ability to be open minded, these sort of communities would never exist or prosper.

Top Financial Domination Websites

I mentioned the need to be open minded for these communities to work. This is crucial. In addition to that, you need to foster that relationship. Women that plainly come out and say “Give me $200 pig” has absolutely no idea what it takes to be in a fin dom arrangement. These women are actually worse than prostitutes as they are literally asking you money for absolutely nothing! A true fin dom arrangement needs the ability to have trust in both ways. Remember, you’re nurturing a need by a man to be financially dominated by a woman. The domme needs to truly understand why this man is wanting this sort of arrangement. Then and only then, are you able to build a proper fin dom arrangement.

Financial Domination

Ever wonder how to find a paypig? First you need to understand the mindset of these men that fall under this category. In short these men, aka paypigs, are looking to give you money for some form of humiliation, degradation, or straight up bowing down to whatever the woman wants. Some can argue that a paypig relationship doesn’t fall under a sugar baby relationship. While the glam is gone, this is still an arrangement where money is involved. As a result, this is 100% considered a sugar baby relationship in my book.

How to Find a PayPig

You know, finding a paypig use to be a ton of work. Now with the growth of social media, you can create a killer Instagram account and attract men in your bio looking for this sort of financial domination. Thing is, you will need to weed out a ton of poor wannabes. You know the types, the ones that have the desire but no money to actually follow through.

The alternative way, is to simply create a profile on a sugar baby site like Ashley Madison. By doing so, you’re weeding out most of them that have no money. You can focus on the ones that have the financial means. Now, it’s a matter of forming a mutually beneficial arrangement where you both get what you’re looking for.

Focus on a Small Amount of Paypigs

Whatever you do, don’t try to have too many paypigs. By doing so, you will stretch yourself thing and not be able to provide the proper engagement. If he’s not satisfied in giving you money, he will find it somewhere else. Simple match actually!

What is the Fetish of Your Paypig

This is a very important one. Each paypig has a fetish. It’s your job to figure out what that is, and provide it for a substantial dollar amount. At the end of the day, this sort of arrangement is a power exchange. Normally, it’s money for some sort of intimacy. In this case, you’re receiving money (power) and providing him the power to NOT have any. Double the fun!

Paypigs need to Pay for Your Attention

One of my favorites. Regardless of the time of day, many paypigs want your attention. Set the expectation upfront that if he wants your attention, it will cost him money. Make him make a donation for the please of your attention.



The University of North Carolina is well known for sugar baby activities in Raleigh and provides the majority of the Raleigh sugar babies. Their source for getting sugar daddies is through the online dating sites where they search for wealthy men in need of companionship and love. The college student sugar babies view their activities as an agreement between two individuals and which is quite in order. They see sugar daddies as sponsors who are able to see them through college.

Raleigh Sugar Babies

Raleigh sugar babies prefer a romantic type of relationship that is warm and loving. You can spoil your sugar bay at the Angus Barn for a romantic evening or even visit the prestigious Bida Manda Laotian Bar and Restaurant for a perfect night out. Many sugar babies will be seen in social places in the company of wealthy men, both young and old. Some even go to the extent of showing off their latest catch to their friends. Most of them are party lovers who love to dine and wine in expensive restaurants and big hotels.

They love being showered with expensive gifts, clothes and jewelry by their wealthy male companions and are usually seen moving in big cars. They are glamorous girls and are very well versed with the current trends in social circles. Most of them can be termed as classy due to the kind of life that they lead.  Unlike majority of sugar babies in other areas, the Raleigh sugar babies are really into this type of relationship as a career and way of life and not just as a way of sustenance.

Sugar Babies in Raleigh

Unlike the college sugar babies, you will not be faced with a dull and unexciting relationship but one that promises a truly romantic companionship with fewer demands. Issues of money are never brought to the fore and this gives them the chance to enjoy their company without money getting into the way. Money issues are settled amicably by prior agreements.

Sugar babies in Raleigh are ready to get along as long as long as the relationship is pleasant and romantic. The boyfriend-girlfriend type of relationship with all the trappings of romance, comfort and social life is preferable to the sugar babies in Raleigh. Most operate as girlfriends and mistresses and love being introduced as such. Throw in a spoiled girlfriend, and what you’re left with is an experience unlike no other.

North Carolina Raleigh

Tulane University in New Orleans is fast turning into a sugar baby hub due to the large number of female students who are now subscribing to different dating websites in search of wealthy male companions to pamper them and meet their college expenses. According to surveys from reputable sources, the female student in Tulane University is either a sugar baby or one who is contemplating joining the rank and file of the already existing large number of New Orleans sugar babies.

New Orleans Sugar Babies

It is not surprising to find a freshman in Tulane University on the pages of various dating sites looking for someone who is wealthy enough to pamper and also to meet her expenses at Tulane where the first year tuition fee alone amounts to a staggering $45,000. This is a very high amount to a student contemplating to finish her first year in college with no form of support. This is all the more reason why many students find themselves searching for sponsors and financial support from wealthy men with the means to meet the cost, and who are searching for companionship and love in exchange. About three quarters of the students receive financial aid but the rest have to fend for themselves. This has thus resulted into the emergence of a new crop of New Orleans sugar babies.

Sugar Babies in New Orleans

Apart from the Tulane students, sugar babies in New Orleans seek out wealthy male individuals who are mature enough to provide for them. They need male companions who can afford them the princess treatment by giving them gifts with love and total respect. They want individuals who can relieve them of their financial worries and also help them in their careers with guidance and mentorship.

The sugar babies in New Orleans would want a male companion who will help them make important decisions pertaining to their education and tuition costs. Some of these sugar babies consider themselves the spoiled girlfriend material. For the single mothers, their main concern is housing. They would search for individuals who can meet their housing needs in terms of payment of bills and other expenses. This is done through an arrangement or agreement between the two parties before they decide to enter into such a relationship. Most wealthy men are more than ready to meet these obligations and are less concerned about the costs as long as they find love and companionship. For those seeking a spoiled girlfriend, the trade-offs truly are a win-win.

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